I Can’t Wear That….Can I?

Personally, being at a juncture in my life where I’m teetering between Plus size clothing to standard, it has made me think about categories of clothes, trends and just how I approach my style. A large majority of my 20s and early 30s were spent around a size 18. Now a solid size 14, and the occasional 12, there can be no denying that my style has changed, I’m sure people who know me best have noticed.

The kick though, is my style really hasn’t changed…..the way I currently dress and style myself are things I have loved all along, there were just obstacles to me carrying it out. First, plus size fashion has definitely evolved the last decade. I spent my early 20s basically wearing the best of what fit, rather I liked it or not. Second, I would tell myself certain colors, patterns or trends just weren’t for me and it wasn’t singular to just my size…. I’d analyze how my complexion, how I wear my hair, make up and a plethora of other reasons contributed to a particular thing not working.

A recent conversation with a good friend who is fairly petite, made me aware that this scenario was not confined to me, but that others no matter size dealt with it too. We were talking about Fashion Nova jeans and I mentioned how much I love them and she stated that she was going to get a pair but the models made her think they weren’t for her. While she is thin, she doesn’t look like the model. I was floored! I mean, she is petite….so there should be no issues, right?! Wrong! It’s easy to forget that everyone struggles. Companies use various marketing strategies to reel in customers but what works on one type of person, doesn’t work on another. Now me, I am a marketers dream consumer! When I see an ad, in my mind, I’m going to look like that model if I buy the item, even though I know better. It’s hilarious! Packaging and all the other tactics work on me and I’m well aware of it. I buy into the dream.

Another encounter with a poster in a fashion facebook group I belong to, stated she thought Teddy coats were only for petite women. She didn’t feel comfortable in them because she was plus size. Me and a gang of other curvy girls, tried to persuade her by posting pics in ours, but we fell on deaf ears. She was convinced with the old mantra….” I CAN’T WEAR THAT!”

Lately, I’ve been thinking about what convinces us that there are things we can’t wear. While I will never advocate wearing things that are not flattering to your body type or make you uncomfortable, there are always things you can incorporate to get the look like you want it!

I will always be a solids and neutral girl, like in this look posted, but this year I’m shedding the fears of the past and wearing things that I like and make me feel happy. Color, prints, mixing and matching, it’s all a part of a plan to express my inner feelings through my wardrobe! Think about what you have refused to wear in the past and why…..hit me up in the comments with something you’d like to try!

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  1. Whitney B.
    January 28, 2020 / 12:53 pm

    First on my list are FN jeans! I with your friend…I can’t see myself wearing them bc of what the models look like. You haven’t led us astray thus far so I’ll be placing my order this weekend! I would also like to incorporate the mix and match trend. I’ve tried it at home but it never seems to look good so I always just go with something that “matches”…quick question…how are you with mixing labels? Like wearing a Louis belt with Gucci shoes? I see a lot of bloggers rocking that trend and I’m wondering if you’re on board with it. Thanks girl!

  2. Jessica
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    January 28, 2020 / 12:57 pm

    🤣🤣🤣🤣 order those jeans!!! Trust me!!!! Girl, I’m all the way down with mixing labels! I’ll tell you how it started…I’m quick to wear my adidas with a Nike hoodie! 🤣🤣🤣 and if we’re talking luxury, I’m getting my money’s worth! Mixing it all the way up! Thanks for getting in on the convo!

  3. Annette Williams
    January 28, 2020 / 1:25 pm

    Good advice Jess!

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