Soooo…how much does social media, family, friends and just the outside world in general influence your style and what you wear? I recently gave this some thought a lot during quarantine and my consumption of TV, movies and social media was at an all time high. More time at home with my son made it hard to get into a book, so anything that I could visually consume, I gravitated toward.
Usually, I am an independent vessel when it comes to my style. I wear what I like, how I like it and I don’t ask for many opinions on what I place myself in, however I’d be remiss to act like I didn’t drool over the style, body, hair or coveted item that someone else has, and attempt to place myself in their bubble…..sometimes it works, sometimes it’s a disaster. Have you ever heard Jill Scott’s “Cross My Mind”? I love the song and click back that link if you haven’t. In the intro, she laments, ” I was just thinking about you…wondering if you wear the same cologne….smelled good…on YOU. Had the next boyfriend of mine try that same kind….but it stunk on him though…you know what they say, everything ain’t for everybody..but I tried anyway.” How true is that point? Everything is not going to work for everybody, but it’s cool to try and if the adverse happens and you like it regardless, hey I say go for it!
My key to style confidence has been rooted in what makes me happy and feel good. For instance, this example is controversial and I hear so many people debate it back and forth…. wigs! Ok, I have a head full of hair yes! It’s actually front and center on this post in my signature fluffy ponytail. I’m grateful for it, I love it, I embrace it, awesome (I have my natural hair care routine on my IG highlight under Hair and There)…but I love to wear weave and wigs! I don’t care who doesn’t like it, I don’t care who wears em and who doesn’t, I don’t care if you think it’s not cute on ME….I feel at my best when I have my unit on and my cute outfit and it makes me happy. Some people feel that leisure workout fits are not to be worn except the gym….in my world that is ALL lies. I am quick to get cute with my workout clothes and a designer bag to run errands and the gym isn’t on the list.
Sometimes, loved ones can encroach on your personal style because they don’t understand it, or they think they know what’s best, but that couldn’t be further from the truth in my humble opinion….do you feel good? Do you feel confident….are you happy? CASE CLOSED. One of my besties had a thing for blouses in our early 20s….we teased her consistently about it, because of course the style at that time was more sexy, revealing and fitted. However, looking back, she had her own style, her own vibe and she liked it, so who were we to say otherwise?
Do what makes you feel good TODAY! There is far too much bad news, sorrow and confusion going on to wear things that you don’t like. Get the happy where you can!
Good advise this Monday morning. Feeling good about yourself is priceless.
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So true!🥰
So true! What works for someone else, won’t work for everyone! If something works for someone else, then that’s all that matters. That’s for sharing this positive message to start our week. Btw you are rocking that dress!
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Thanks girl! 🖤🖤Exactly! People have to find their own path. Nobody else’s place to get in the way.
Love it!😍
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Thanks hun! 🖤
You hit the nail on the head! If you feel good then who cares what other people think??? At one point I did…not even long ago. I’ve finally found myself in a place of security and confidence in my style. No one…not even my momma (hey LaDon) can dress me in what THEY want to see me in. It’s all about me boo.
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You gonna be in trouble! 👀😂😂😂😂😂😂 girl, but so true! You have to define your own personal style on your own terms!
Jessica, first I must comment on how beautiful you are in the pics..so photogenic! I love your entire look, head to toe. The slim gold belt was a fashionable choice! Some seasons I may only purchase accessories. (Bingo) I’ve always done me…and it’s always worked. Sometimes I’m in penny loafers, slacks, and a crisp blouse; maybe flats, pencil skirt, with a white shirt (like today) or my LBD, pumps, and pearls…sometimes jeans with pearls…It all works!
Some women can be sexy without trying…they’re just naturally sexy, in a subtle way. Like you mentioned your ‘gym wear’ with a cool bag…stylish
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Exactly! I think that’s what makes the world interesting! Lots of different points of view and many styles influenced by culture and mixing it all up! You look as good as you feel!
You are absolutely right! I love this post. And I love the dress. Simple but has a lil’ sumthin’ 😉
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Thanks so much! Exactly!